Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #1 Creating Awareness.
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about creating awareness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Mindful Breathing.
The first challenge in the 10 week long Peaceful Parenting Challenge is all about being aware of your emotions and what triggers those emotions and reactions.
I’ve noticed after some observation that I am pretty lucky that most of my triggers don’t come directly from my child, he is 7 and practically perfect in every way! I may be slightly biased but after spending any length of time with other kids or in some cases other grown-ups I want nothing more than to be with my boy.
This isn’t to say that I NEVER get frustrated and lose my temper, I do, I have complete melt down moments where the little voice inside my head tells me that I better “check myself before I wreck myself “ and take a time out.
The majority of these moments come up during 2 main parts of the day…getting ready to get out the door AND the dreaded dinner time (my nemisis!). Two times of the day that my anxiety and frustration levels are at their boiling point 95% of the time.
Why is it that when you need to be somewhere the kids sleep in or move at a snails pace getting distracted by a speck of dust? That reminds me…I should dust. (My son comes by it honestly I guess, I tend to have the attention span of a sand flea) I feel my heart racing and my face getting hot, my whole body tenses up and I want to scream get dressed already! My inner drill sergeant is itching to run the show some mornings. I have however learned that it’s best not to yell because that just brings the tears (both his and mine) and we waste more time hugging it out and apologizing to each other.
Dinner time on the other hand is a completely different form of torture. It doesn’t matter what time dinner is ready it always takes 2 or more hours for my pint sized dictator to consume it. After convincing him that it isn’t any different from the last time I made it, and reminding him it’s exactly the same meal he ate with grandma and grandpa it still takes several painful hours of watching him poke at the items on his plate, it’s moments like this that I need a little peace and grace to not run from the room screaming in frustration. Perhaps this is why so many have a drink with dinner? You think?
This week I’ve made notes on these triggers, they’re worse when I’m overtired which as a single parent just goes with the territory or when I’ve had a particularly bad day at work. I’ve recently returned to my full time gig and its early morning hours, long days and could be a whole new series of posts on triggers and emotions! I can tell by how long I linger in the driveway when I arrive home how low the patience level will be when I finally go inside.
In the coming weeks my driveway may become my place to meditate and do some mindful breathing especially with a summer loaded with house guests and extra kids!
Read some of the other posts by local bloggers and see how they are fairing through this challenge!
Balancing being a stay-at-home-mom & working from home – Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting realizes her home base business and mommy duties don’t mix well.
Amanda from Family and Baby Sign Language describes her physical response to intense emotions.
Ricky at Daddy Blogger reflects on how peaceful the first year of his daughter’s life was and wonders where all that peace has gone.