Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #6 – Developing Positive Self-Talk
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Developing Positive Self-Talk. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Watching Our Language.
I feel like I’ve been preparing for this week of the challenge for the past 212 days.
It all started in December 2012 when I realized that I was miserable and it was largely because I made myself miserable by being dragged into the swirling vortex of negative energy that surrounded me in my everyday life. I started to hate everything I didn’t want to be around people and the littlest things set me off. I needed to do something quick before I sunk deeper into the black hole of misery that was beginning to swallow up my world.
So in my true blue form I decided the solution was to clean it my closet, yes you read that correctly, my clothes and shoes and jewellery have always been the answer so I went to my closet to soothe myself and clear my head. I spent the better part of a weekend determining the fate of each article of clothing I owned and at the end didn’t have my usual sense of relief. As I stood in my somewhat emptier closet I still felt wound tighter than the Tasmanian devil! I was frustrated and irritable and apparently irrational because I decided it wasn’t my wardrobe troubling me it was my decor…so all of the furniture was gone the next day and all new ordered and en route. Once it arrived I felt a bit better, it was a good start but still not quite the solution. It was after another delightful evening listening to my”friends” stir the pot and gossip about others that I realized it was the company I was keeping and their negativity was dragging me down. I was mirroring their negative energy in my daily tasks and had somehow gone from the happy go lucky, glass half full type to an irrational, irritable, miserable human being! I hated my life, my job and just about everything around me. After a particularly long and emotional day at the office I came home and broke down, after a good cry I looked at my tear stained cheeks and decided that I need Ed to make a change.
This is when “Year of Yes” came about. It was my solution to get back to where I once was and find my happiness again. I needed to live in the moment each day and experience the joy of all the little things. It was my quest to bring back positive energy and reverse the black cloud of karma that had been closing in. Each day for the past 212 days I have made the conscious decision to think positively, create positive energy and experiences and say yes to something I would normally say no to. For the first 60 days it was scary and a little intimidating to say yes each day but I did it and it resulted in some tough decisions that ultimately got me to where I am today. Happy, content, at peace and able to start the day with positive mindset. If you think it’s going to be a bad day you are guaranteeing that it will be. Year of Yes and Peaceful Parenting go hand in hand after 90 days it becomes a habit and you just roll with the punches without the meltdowns everyone is happier in our house and it all comes down to positive energy and making sure we respect each other and ourselves by leaving the negative energy elsewhere.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Positive Self Talk – Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Week 6 – Katrina from Kalem Photography has been developing positive self-talk for about 30 years.
Peaceful Parenting: Week 6 – I am NOT an Independent Woman … and that is okay.- Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat reminds herself it’s ok to ask for help.